I suppose some of you have been wondering where I’ve been the last couple of months. From the title of this blog you might have guessed the situation. My nephew (and his mom) have come to live with me. Overnight, I went from being a childfree writer to full-time caregiver. (granted, my sister does most of the work) Am I complaining? No. But it’s definitely a transition.
For those of you who, like my sister, have been juggling a family and writing career for years, go ahead and roll your eyes. Go ahead. Get it over with. There. Didn’t that feel good? It’s okay. I don’t blame you.
I never thought raising a child while writing was easy, (Hence why I opted not to have children) but I was not prepared for the amount of energy and time that goes into living with a child, that or the sleep deprivation. I’m so tired! More so, I wasn’t prepared for the impact it would have on my writing. Aside from losing time to write, I’m losing energy. By the time the kiddo hits the hay, I’m ready to as well. So much for late night writing. Then there is the noise. Children are noisy. Especially little boys. Everything crashes and explodes. Even stuffed animals! So, for a writer who is used to writing in silent solitary, this is definitely an adjustment.
All griping aside, I love my nephew and I enjoy having him stay with me. We have fun playing castle and watching movies. He reads with me and even naps with me. He’s my favorite little guy. The writer in me is just going to have to adjust.
Many successful authors are also parents and/or full-time caregivers. Heck, many of us hold full-time jobs. So let me ask those of you who have been juggling these balls longer: how do you find balance?